3.14.19
This past Sunday, the Moore and Kuzy family got together for dinner. If you read my last post, you can infer that my desperate plea worked! Mrs. Linda, Kuzy's mother, an eccentric woman with a beaming smile that stretches for miles on end, told me something last night that I think will resonate with me forever.
I was storytelling, an anecdote that involved some party being lame and ultimately disappointing that me and some friends left about a half hour in. She said to me, "Brynn, if you don't have fun, it is your own fault."
At an age like this where boredom is absolutely feared, we distract ourselves with technology (nothing you haven't heard before). The media comes to our aid by shoving photos of richer, more eventful lives down our throats. We scroll hours seeing other people's adventures and successes and we cannot help but feel a tinge of contempt.
Then, your phone buzzes. You glance over to view the alert and you read that moves have been made! Finally, the squad is stepping out. 😎
...But you're not having any fun. The "vibe is off" and no one is being themselves. Ugh! What a bust! Why did you even go out tonight? Meticulous tweezing and plucking for what?! Everyone here is lame. You should just mope and be annoyed that no one is making this a fun night.
*record scratch*
ORRR.. you can remember that only you are in charge of your own happiness! Yes, you! You bundle of joy reading this blog post. It is so easy to rely on others to make the atmosphere pleasing. But what about your greatest super power?!? Being your truest form of self is the quickest way to have fun... and make the fun contagious too. Too often we sell ourselves short on our amazing capabilities to stimulate a crowd and we rely on our friends to bring the energy.
I write this with a heavy heart that I have seen some of the coolest people get lost in the tide and follow the steps of what is deemed "acceptable". Some people naturally mesh with this 'in' crowd, others unfortunately change attributes that don't coincide with said crowd, changing themselves entirely to conform. This small tweak in personality, a person changing one tiny thing about their raw character, shifts more of their identity later on. That conformity tweak is initially discernible, but then the snowball rolls.
I think it is absolutely imperative to keep a steadfast heart, especially at a time where so many conflicting forces surround you. So, like, high school? You ask. Yes. Like high school.
Remember that YOU design your happiness. That your greatest gift you can bring to the table is being your most genuine self. So next time you're out, remember the wise words of Mrs. Linda: "If you didn't have fun, it's your own fault."
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